Have you ever wanted to give an opinion at a meeting but found yourself tongue-tied? Or have you watched people make conversation flow effortlessly at a party and wish you had the confidence to do it too?
Self-confidence is one of the most important qualities for success – whether at work or in your personal life. Here are a few practical and simple-to-follow tips that you can use at your next meeting or the next time you meet new people.
Turn a Negative Into a Positive
Often, it’s not about what someone says to us but how we can cultivate positive thoughts about what was said. All of us get criticised at some point. In some cases, people look at that criticism as the truth – a fact rather than an opinion. Even if there is a certain level of truth in the criticisms, rather than allowing those things to rule over your life and getting riled up, let’s learn to take them as feedback and as a challenge to better ourselves.
Be Confident but Not Arrogant
Remember the importance of believing in yourself because it is the one thing that you have control over. This confidence is also an outward expression that other people will quickly take note of. Whether it’s taking care of the type of clothes you wear, you hairstyle, or simply being confident, these things will help you feel better about yourself and this feeling of confidence will in turn be projected to others. We need to believe in ourselves, but we also need to be wary of the line crossing over to being overconfident, as this can be detrimental in many ways.
Beware of Wanting Perfection
Some of the most effective advice for successful living is to stop striving for perfection. The fact is that nobody is perfect and nobody will ever be perfect. We all have our detractors and if you let yourself believe that perfection is attainable, you are always going to be disappointed. Understanding that everyone has their weak points, and striving to build your strengths means that your journey towards improvement has its rewards beyond the unrealistic state of perfection.
Take Time Out
The fact is that great inspiration or motivation to boost your self-esteem doesn’t always happen in the hustle and bustle of everyday life. Sometimes, you need to take time to step back from your busy life and gain perspective. Try to schedule some time to relax, to do the things you enjoy, in essence, reset you brain. This will let you unwind and have a breather and allow you to be clear in where you are headed towards and where you would like to go.
Having self-confidence is important as it helps you become a better conversationalist, a better colleague, and a stronger performer. But confidence takes practice. And the more you make those small wins, the more confident you’ll be. So give those four how-tos a try, and let us know how you do!